I was visiting my Mom, my brother Rob, and his lovely wife Bonny in Memphis, TN this past weekend. Lots of fun. Deeelicious food. And a chance to see how spring is busting out in another part of the country.
Usually epiphanies about life touch us in unexpected places. Touchstone moments that can be easily lost in the shuffle. I find it pays to be alert.
Bonny and I took their awesome Husky (Sampson, the tail-wagging, kiss monster) for several walks around the community. A flowering extravaganza. Spring is…well….springing. I was really struck by this one gorgeous tree in their neighbor’s yard.
Not only is it covered in beautiful pink flowers. But the flowers are literally growing up the trunk. And I literally laughed out loud. After all, if you’ve got beautiful pink flowers to share with the world, why limit yourself to a few sparsely embellished branches? Sure, there are many gnarly, worn roots. And some dead limbs here and there. But who cares? Look at the flowers! This tree is not settling for showing its true colors in a small, bashful way. Busting out, indeed!
I was reminded that each of us is gifted with true colors. Unique, curious, inspiring, delightful, stop-and-take-a-picture qualities. As a practitioner, this is a critical concept for each of us to embrace. People are just waiting to be inspired by what we have to offer. Inspired to hope. To relax. To trust. To finally honor themselves in getting the support they need. To open up and share what they too have to offer. To be heard.
Yet how many of us are marketing ourselves or speaking out to our audience in a small way? Or in a reserved, self-conscious way? Where we are so worried about showing our roots that we hide our flowers? Or an I-don’t-want-to-offend-anyone, please-like-me, or I-am-not-a-fraud kind of way? Perhaps sharing only a few examples of our strange and exquisite flowers here and there. Afraid that someone won’t think they are beautiful and compelling? When truthfully, they are breathtaking.
Or even worse, trying to be like someone else? Trying to copy someone else whose colors we believe will be more acceptable…more credible…more true? When the people who most need your help are actually waiting to see Your true colors. To know for sure that you are the one they’ve been waiting for.
This week I encourage you to lean into your own Spring. Are you letting yourself bust out in the ways that are most joyful and liberating to you? Are you authentically sharing and marketing yourself with Your true, glorious colors? In your newsletters, blogs, and presentations, are you speaking with the authenticity and intensity that you use with a treasured friend? If not, then why not?
Here’s a concept that we all know well and probably discuss with our clients and patients… When we repress our true nature and who we most want to be (worn roots and all), the body has to hold in all of that unexpressed potential. And all the critical, insecure, self-judging thoughts we have about it too. A big job. Often the body struggles and starts to fail with the burden of that task. Are you personally following the sage wisdom you would give a client in this area?
I used to struggle with this unwillingness to share my true colors in a big way. And it held me back in my growth – professionally and personally – in a large and painful way. My body thought a good way to protect me from all that apprehension and holding back was to build a 20+ pound Michelin Man suit. Extra body fat, protecting me from what I couldn’t open myself up to. When I finally let it all go and allowed myself to bust out, the suit faded away. My joy arose. And my business soared.
Here is what I want for you: Set yourself free.
Are you looking for a sign? Okay: this is it. Let go already.
Choose to Be Well. I usually sign my emails with that valediction. I imagine many people think mistakenly that I mean “be well” in the sense of being healthy. Actually, I mean “Be” as in Be You. Open up. Live. And do it Well. Do it with gusto. Fully expressed. Uninhibited. Showing all your true colors. And let flowers grow up your trunk. Let the world stop and take a picture. And marvel at your beauty. And choose you as the ideal practitioner they’ve been waiting for.
With warmth, love, and springtime awe at the gifts you bring to the world –